Tuesday, October 20, 2009

My advisor comments on August and September

One of my advisors has been commenting for some time that world events we are now experiencing are here to challenge us where we place a lot of symbolic value. Like compassion, integrity, and self-respect. Yeah, we've got this one down. Do it all the time. At the gas station, during our tax audit . . .
My advisor also reminds us to stay focused in The Light.
What?
Plenty of us have heard at least once others reference “The Light”. Ok. How many possible interpretations of light can we think of in five seconds? This may bring up a lot of images for you. Some smarmy, some smart. One of my favorites is “seeing in the dark” when the light goes out. That's my choice for my advisor's comment. Whatever it means to you, the times we are in are bringing fresh opportunities to practice en-light-ened exchanges. With ourselves as well as others. Whatever your goals in your daily life, the intensification of energy that is accelerating in the universe and directed to our solar system affects you. This is no longer the stuff of fringe, it’s cold, hard, science.
I look where I'm stepping and watch how I handle stressful situations now like my life depends on it. Fear. Doubt. Anger. Suspicion. Contempt.
Why has this become so painful for me to do? Fear? Doubt? Suspicion . . .
If your ability to handle stress seems more difficult every day like it is for me, you are experiencing this energy. Its not just you. Everyone is. Ask around.
Some are fortunate to be experiencing deep love at this time and seem beyond stress. I can't stand these people. I want them to be working it as hard as I am. Not fair. The quality of that love however, might be challenged, sooner than later.
Say your expectation of another to continue participating fully in your experience becomes less than your expectation, how will you relate to that person? What will your reaction be? If, as my advisor counsels, you don’t react, something falls away from the event. It disappears back into its “native nothingness” as Florence Scovel Shinn describes it.
What?
"Its not the experience, its how you act in the presence of the experience" my advisor continues like a broken record. These are smart words, until some smarmy event serves up strong emotion demanding to be released. Then, and only then, will you know if you can focus on “The Light” and stay in your Zone, whatever you choose that to be for you.
“Ok, I see the light. If I am true to myself and have enough respect for myself, I will view my emotions as a challenge to call upon some generous acts. That should get me zoned.”
What?
Contemplation like this is flat-out impossible. I just want to deck somebody. What kind of elevated therapeutic modality do I need to calm down and stay zoned? Maybe the kind of training that makes that hill easier to climb on the bike, every time. I get zoned by the sweetness of my gears changing smoothly and my cadence from rotating pedals singing that song I know so well. I hang a little more on the hill until my purported integrity can reinvent the emotions my self-absorbed emotions want to play out. I start seeing in the dark. Feeling around so I don't trip on something or knock somebody over. That way I know it will all still be there the next time I stumble through.
I think we can use this strategy with ourselves in many ways. If we know from experience we can move beyond whatever is coming "at us" by just making the decision to do it, people and furniture stick around for us.
Why is this such a pain to do? Why does it take such an epic effort? Does contempt feel better? To win? Must we assemble a courtroom and a jury to issue a judgment for us before we decide to just let it go?
My advisor added a quote from Kahlil Gibran, the Lebanese mystic and poet, in her newsletter last month:
“Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond that pain.”

What?

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